Tooled Up

We aim to provide holistic support to everyone in our school community, in all areas of family life, which is why Merchant Taylors’ Prep School subscribes to Tooled Up Education. This gives all of our families privileged access to a regularly updated digital library, full of evidence-based tips, simple activities, advice-packed videos and enlightening podcasts, on all matters relating to parenting and family life. Tooled Up Education is curated by one of the UK’s leading experts on parental engagement in children’s lives and learning, Dr Kathy Weston.

Dr Weston is passionate about bridging the gap between research and real-life parenting. As a busy parent herself, she understands that loving parents want to do the ‘right thing’ and that parenting is full of joys, but also many challenges. Our children have a vast educational and life journey ahead of them. It is important that they are ‘Tooled Up;’ equipped psychologically with the resilience required to reach their destinations safely and successfully. Watch this clip to find out how the site works.

Get Access to Tooled Up Now:

Simply click on the link below to set up your own personal account by entering your email address and our Unique School PIN  number. You will find this on the Tooled Up Launch email sent by the school, or you can contact Tooled Up for help on:

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Create my Tooled Up Account

Once you have created your account, you will have immediate access to the entire library of research-based resources, which will help you to support your child in their journey into early adulthood and beyond.

As a ‘Tooled Up’ parent, you will:

  • Feel more supported on your parenting journey.
  • Be able to access evidence-based tips that can help your child to thrive and reach their potential.
  • Be able to ask any question and get the answers you need, sourced from the highest quality research evidence.

Tooled Up is here for you!

Tooled Up is a dynamic library of evidence-based tips; growing in response to parents’ requests for further information. Don’t miss out on Dr Weston’s emails which will keep you updated about new resources and topical issues. When logged into Tooled Up, go to the ‘My Profile’ page and check that you have ticked the box to let her know you are happy to hear from her.  We are delighted to be working together with Tooled Up Education to provide this support to you and your family beyond our school gates.

If you have any questions then please do not hesitate in contacting the school office or Tooled Up directly on



24th February

Over the last week, we’ve added some new resources which are designed to spark conversations about the good and the ‘could be better’ aspects of family life. Check out our top ten tips around having these chats, and keep your eyes peeled for an accompanying template to use before and during these ‘family audit’ meetings, which will be arriving into the Tooled Up library soon. If you have younger children, our My Family Life activity is a great way to prompt reflection and gain access to how children are feeling about their home life and relationships. 


Parents with children in Years 7 or 8 might want to check out our new top tips for supporting children through tests or exams. Watch the video or read the tip sheet now. Those of you with tweens may also be interested in our brand new booklist featuring books about puberty and growing up.

Don’t forget that we have numerous webinars coming up, all of which are free for you to attend. Register your place now. There is still time to grab a place on any (or all) of our expert webinars on eating disorders in our upcoming focus week. We are also running nine webinars during March on subjects such as: sex and relationships, dyslexia, ADHD, autism and enabling children to thrive academically! Keep an eye on the front of the Tooled Up site for details of these upcoming, online events.


For those of you who missed it live, you can also now find our recent webinar with Dr Elly Hanson on how pornography is affecting children and teens in the library, along with accompanying notes.  

2nd February

Did you know that it’s National Storytelling Week? Encouraging storytelling and a love of reading, writing and telling stories is something that we advocate all year round at Tooled Up. Take a look at all of our booklists and check out our top tips on cultivating a love of reading and creative writing.


In other news, we have been extremely busy planning a whole range of exclusive online events for you, which we hope you’ll enjoy. They are all available to book on the Tooled Up site. Here’s what’s on offer:


Raising a Child in the Digital Age, 9th February, 8pm GMT - Join Tooled Up Founder, Dr Weston in this talk to celebrate Safer Internet Day, as she explores the ways parents can help their children become good digital citizens. 

How to Raise a Resilient Child, 24th February, 8pm GMT - In this talk, Dr Weston shares the very best evidence-based tips with parents, so that they feel inspired, more knowledgeable and empowered. She will explore factors that contribute to family resilience and practical steps that parents can take to help children become emotionally, academically and digitally resilient. 

Stepping Stones: Early Conversations About Sex and Relationships, 8th March, 2022, 7.30pm GMT - Trained relationship and sex educator Saskia Boujo joins Dr Weston for this webinar on how to talk to children and tweens about relationships and sex. Parents will leave the webinar feeling more equipped with some strategies for handling these traditionally tricky topics.

Helping Your Child Thrive Academically, 9th March, 2022, 8pm GMT - In this talk, Dr Weston shares the very best evidence-based tips with parents on the things you can do at home that will help your child thrive at school.

Gary Wilson, ‘Boys will Be… Brilliant!’, 22nd March, 2022, 7.30pm GMT - We are joined by special guest speaker, freelance consultant and author, Gary Wilson, in this talk for parents of boys, in which he explains the reasons why some boys underachieve and provides supportive strategies for parents and carers to try and apply at home.

26th January

As the parent of a primary aged child, you probably won’t have escaped the craze for Disney’s latest film, Encanto; the story of the trials and tribulations of a magical family in Columbia. Like lots of big screen animations, it provides many opportunities to open up dialogue with children about mental health. The song lyrics in particular can prompt simple chats about anxiety, self-esteem and perfectionism (check out ‘Surface Pressure’ and ‘What Else Can I Do’, in particular). We have numerous resources in the Tooled Up library to further these important conversations. Why not browse through our ‘Manage Their Emotions’ category. Our Mood Thermometer, tips on normalising mistakes in family life and strategies on keeping calm might be of particular interest.   


On another note, the resources that we promised about teeth are beginning to pop up in the library. We’ve put together 10 dentist approved tips for looking after children’s oral health. And if your child feels anxiety about visiting the dentist, we’ve got 15 tips that will help you. We’ve also created a list of books to open up conversations about teeth and dental health. We’ll have some practical activities for children arriving very soon, so keep your eyes peeled if this is a subject that appeals to you. We’re still seeking a dentist who’d like to feature in a short video for us. If you know anyone, please get in touch!

Finally, our Happiness Checklist has had a big revamp. We’d love to know what you think of it!

19th January

At Tooled Up, we’re still busily updating some of our resources. Did you know that giving children small chores around the home supports the development of their executive functions, which includes the ability to plan, prioritise, focus and remember instructions (listen to our podcast with Professor Adele Diamond to find out more)? Our Chores List has always been a popular download, but we wanted to make it even better, so we’ve given it a revamp and broken it down into three different age categories - chores appropriate for children aged two to five, those of primary age and young people over 11. We’ve also written some tips for encouraging children to get involved in chores. We hope you find them useful! 

As oral health is now part of the school curriculum, we are currently making Tooled Up video resources and tip sheets on dental hygiene for younger children (we've already created a list of relevant books), and are seeking an enthusiastic 3-6 year old who would like to kick-start their acting career. If interested, contact us:

If any of our Tooled Up parents happen to be dentists in the Herts/Beds area, and would like to offer up their surgery for a little bit of filming, let us know! We can all make going to the dentist part of our 2022 plans. Why not add it to our new goal setting planner?

We have a new Researcher of the Month for January, Dr Rachel Nesbit. She spoke to us all about the importance of adventurous play and what we can do to ensure our children are getting enough of it. The podcast is available for you to listen to now!

Finally, we've added a brand new, exciting feature to the Tooled Up website this week. It is designed to help you find the resources that you need more quickly. Can you spot it? Let us know if you can, the first person to email the correct answer will win a Tooled Up water bottle.

12th January

Happy New Year from the Tooled Up Team! Now that we are moving firmly into 2022, make sure that you keep checking out the Tooled Up library as we are adding new resources all of the time and have several webinars planned over the next month or so. As we get into the swing of things this January, we strongly recommend encouraging the whole family to think a little about the year ahead by filling in our brand new Goal Setting Planner

Have you checked out our new webinar section yet (you can find it in the advanced search function)? It’s packed full of recordings of all of our webinars with leading experts from the worlds of mental health and education, along with accompanying notes if you are short on time and want to pick up on the key points. Delve in and you’ll find expert advice on anger management, improving sleep, eating disorders, OCD and anxiety, self-harm and nurturing the mental health of LGBTQ+ teens. You can also find out more about deafness, gender stereotypes, nurturing young athletes, sports nutrition, degree apprenticeships, the university application process and young people’s relationship with fire. Phew!

Don’t forget to look on the Tooled Up site to find out what webinars we have coming up. On 24th February, you can join Dr Weston for a talk on Raising a Resilient Child and on March 9th we’ll be sharing evidence-based tips on helping children to thrive academically. Book your free tickets now!

The Tooled Up library is already packed with almost 350 evidence-based resources, including interviews with over 80 leading experts from around the world. But, it’s your library and we want to know how else we can help you? What new resources would you like to see? Which ones do you love? What could we do better? We always value your feedback and want to ensure that we are giving you the resources that you need. 

Email us at to let us know how we are doing!

24th November


Thanks to all of you who came along to our bonanza week of mental health webinars. For those of you who missed them live, but would like the chance to catch up, the recordings are now all to be found in the Tooled Up library, along with full notes.

Our expert webinars just keep on coming. This Thursday (25th), at 8pm, we’ll be joined by Claire Harvey to discuss how to promote excellent mental health in LGBTQ+ teens. We’ll be sharing the research evidence and will discuss what needs to happen at home and at school to ensure teens have positive self-esteem and a great support network. Book your free ticket now. And, on 13th December, we’ll be talking to educational audiologist Dr Joy Rosenburg, from Oxford Audiology Solutions, about how families with children who are deaf or hearing impaired can build resilience. Public tickets are available here but you can enter your promo code Thrive2021 at the top left at the checkout to get your ticket for free as a parent at a Tooled Up school.

If you have teens embarking on their GCSE year, make sure that you share our GCSE tips video and tip sheet with them. Encouraging young people to try some of the ideas will help them to improve their organisation and mindset throughout this important year. We also know that university applications are of interest to many parents at the moment. Our interview with Susan Smith from All Things Careers provides really usable information on degree apprenticeships and a video on the UCAS application process will be in the library soon. 

Don’t forget to follow Tooled up on Instagram and Twitter, where we are running competitions for parents in Tooled Up schools and keeping you updated on new resources.

10th November 2021

It’s World Kindness Day on Saturday, so we’ve been pausing to think about how we might be able to give a little back over the holiday season. Over the last year, we’ve actually spoken to two experts (Dr Jess Datu and Professor Robin Banerjee) about the power of kindness, and you can listen to both interviews in Tooled Up. To embed altruism into your everyday life, why not see how many of our 100 Acts of Kindness your family can tick off between now and the end of the school term or try one of our family friendly fundraising ideas for a cause close to your heart? Help your children to notice their own kindness by encouraging them to complete our self-esteem building activity, What Makes You You? We have also compiled a list of books to help cultivate kindness and empathy for young people of all ages. 

On a different note, Dr Weston has put together a video for you to share with any older child embarking on their GCSE year. It’s packed full of tips on organisation, revision and planning, which they can put to good use in the run up to the school holidays.

Don't forget that our Mental Health Education Week starts on November 15th. There are still a few places left on our exclusive evening webinars with expert clinicians. Book today, so that you don’t miss out.

3rd November 2021

The half-term holidays have not been quiet at Tooled Up Towers. We’ve just announced our new Researcher of the Month for November, Dr Jo Van Herwegen. Listen to our fascinating interview with her about the potentially damaging impact that common neuromyths can have on children’s outcomes, particularly if they have neurodevelopmental conditions. How many of them would you believe to be true? 


Just in time for Bonfire Night, we’ve also got a fantastic new quiz about the science of fire. Sure to provoke some family discussions, each question has two answers - one more simplified answer suitable for younger children and a second more in depth response, appropriate for secondary pupils, as well as a list of books to help teach young children about fire safety.


Did you know that children’s habits and thinking about money are generally established by the time they are 7? Helping children to become financially literate is a crucial life skill. To give you a headstart, we’ve made a fantastic finance quiz to test your whole family’s financial knowledge. It’s available either as questions to read off the screen (or print out) and as some fabulous quiz cards, to make it into a real game. Also, keep your eyes peeled for a list of our top tips about how to talk to children about money, coming to the library very soon.

Finally, our Mental Health Education Week of evening webinars with leading experts discussing a host of issues relating to mental health and wellbeing is only 2 weeks away and places are filling up fast. Tickets are on a first come, first served, basis, so don’t delay. Find out more and book on the Tooled Up Education homepage now!


15th October 2021

Earlier this week, it was World Mental Health Day, so now seems the perfect time to remind you of the vast array of evidence-based resources linked to mental health and wellbeing in the Tooled Up library. Our wellbeing category currently contains 160 resources and is growing constantly, in response to your needs. 

We can’t wait for our very own Mental Health Education Week, exclusively for our Tooled Up community, starting on November 15th. Get ready for a week of evening webinars, all of which are open for registration now! Find out about anger management strategies with Dr Anna Colton, self-harm with national expert, Professor Ellen Townsend, the importance of sleep for mental health with Joanna Kippax of Wye Sleep, OCD and anxiety with psychiatrist, Dr Anna Conway Morris and the role of clinical psychologists in supporting young people’s mental health with Dr Tamsyn Noble. Tickets are on a first come, first served basis. Make sure you don’t miss out by registering now!

6th October 2021




Here at Tooled Up, we are listening and responding to your questions and queries. Based on parents’ requests, we have introduced a resource that can help introduce boundaries to children’s gaming habits, one that can aid the home-school partnershipand make parents’ evenings a little easier and, just to prove we can be light-hearted, we have added some fun resources on the latest Bond film. We asked Ian Kinane, Professor of English Literature at the University of Roehampton, to get us up to speed ahead of seeing the new release. Check out his five things you need to know before you see No Time to Die’ resource and test your knowledge with his James Bond Quiz


If you prefer educational webinars, here is a menu of what we are offering in November. 


4th November - Just in time for bonfire night, we'll be having a fascinating chat about Children’s Relationship to Fire and Fire-setting, with criminologist and author, Joanna Foster. 


Later in November, Dr Weston is hosting a Mental Health Education Week for Tooled Up Schools. All webinars are free for you to attend:


15th November - Anger Management Strategies with Dr Anna Colton

16th November - What Every Parent Needs to Know About Self-Harm with national expert, Professor Ellen Townsend

17th November - The Importance of Sleep for Mental Health with Joanna Kippax of Wye Sleep

18th November - OCD and Anxiety: A Parent’s Guide with psychiatrist, Dr Anna Conway Morris 

19th November - The Role of the Clinical Psychologist in Supporting Young People’s Mental Health with Dr Tamsyn Noble